challenging. It gave me a much better understanding of my wife and the position I put her in.

Nothing was disagreeable, most definitely challenging."

this program has moved the needle more than any other program I have attended, in both my own healing and our relational healing journey.

This program was recommended through a coach who felt it would be a good fit. They were correct. It gave me the why and how, many of my actions occurred due to attachments and origin. But it did not excuse those actions and points you in the right direction to make amends for them."

times of pain. [The concept] PURE was a big one for me. Learning how to be present in times of pain was huge. I am more aware and clear about how I DIRE, I can identify when I enter into that mentality.

One of my biggest issues was mimicking my wife in her pain. I was in so much shame I couldn't hear her. Thank you for taking this so seriously and giving us a place to heal and help our wives heal. I am so very grateful."

It gave me a better perspective on the areas of my self I have to work through to be a person of integrity, honesty, and empathy. I feel like I have worked hard on these already, but the DIRE gives me a yardstick to measure progress and see what is left to work on.

I was a floating saint so realizing that was eye opening and led to me working to deal with it asap. The PURE and HIEI concepts and constructs have also been helpful and influenced how I now interact with my wife. I would recommend this course and actually have told a couple of people about the course and they were very interested."

The material was incredibly useful. The concepts that were most illuminating to me was the origins of my detachment incongruency regression and entitlement.

This program has given me the tools to identify and counteract dire and the floating saint with the pure concept. I would absolutely recommend this course to other men who share the same struggles that I do. I feel like this course would help any man deepen his connection to his partner."

I would recommend this course to others. Many men in recovery are overwhelmed with how to be, what to do, what to say, what to not say. Exposing the concept of the Floating Saint is extremely helpful for those in recovery to see how they are still being abusive and controlling."

I could see this material being very broadly applicable to men looking to understand their partners and themselves.

This course was extremely thoughtful and well put together. The material is extremely useful. For me the part of the course that explained our motivation for each of the attenuating qualities (intimacy, honesty, integrity and empathy). I struggle sometimes to know why I am working so hard at this. It feels like there is no end in site, no reward, and nothing that comes from this. But when I read the 'motivations' I realized that these are core values I hold to be true in my own heart, and that helps to know why I'm doing this, for me. I would strongly recommend the course."

I wrote out every question and answer in a notebook. This practice is very good for me, it slows me down and lets me absorb it so much better. Thank you very much for putting these classes together. We are very limited in our resources and this was a great investment for our relationship."

The course material was outstanding. For me, learning about entitlement and authenticity were the two most important concepts. This helped me to get "unstuck" in my relationship with my wife.

Betrayal violence was difficult to swallow, though an important one to learn and sit with. Answering the homework questions forced me to take a deep and honest look at my behaviors, and this allowed me to gain the crucial insight needed to move forward with empathy and authenticity.

'Do your best and don't worry about the reaction.' I needed that reassurance to just keep moving forward."

The entitlement section was powerful. Also the idea that you can hold 2 truths at the same time. It has really helped. I just went thru a 3 day intensive with my wife. Not sure if I could have done it well without DIRE course. Thanks for increasing my understanding of complex partner betrayal."

The course has been a fundamental step in my journey to be a better man, partner, father, grandfather and friend. The concepts within DIRE were very "light bulb" kind of experience.

Realizing how much time I was spending within each area, and the effect that it was having on myself and how much it was effecting my relationship was very enlightening. My wife wants to be heard, validated, and feel valued as an equal in our relationship. This course has helped me to show up more authentically and genuine, even though I don't get right all the time, I'm trying."

It's been amazing. The learning and challenging has made me better, though I'm struggling sometimes. Of particular help has been the fact that equality starts with holding two realities on my side. Creating my own Trident, and the Navy SEAL imagery give me a view into the level of mental toughness I need to reach, as hard as that's been. I would recommend this program very much so, these growing pains notwithstanding. It's going to be worth it even when I feel dysregulated."