Hope and Freedom

3-Day Couples Intensive

It's about an honesty overhaul.

A person who has violated fidelity needs to intervene in their own default mode of deception. They need to unlearn their cycle of hiding and avoidance in order to establish an honest baseline. This is what gives them the chance to become trustworthy and safe for their partner.

This program helps couples transform the most difficult dynamics by shifting the responsibility of confirming the truth from the betrayed partner to the one who violated fidelity. This approach ensures that the unfaithful partner takes proper responsibility by first dismantling all remaining duplicity. Once this foundation is set, honesty can be chosen daily going forward, promoting an equitable environment where trust and safety become possible.

This 3-Day Intensive is designed to quickly lay the foundation

that allows trust and safety to become possible again.

I work with one couple at a time to make the following gains in their healing process as a couple:

Eliminate deception and gaslighting for good.
Dissolve the power and control that results from deception and gaslighting.
Provide the right tools to understand the betrayed partner's trauma and become an agent of healing and effective support.
Provide the couple with a process (one that they can continue at home) that will help them rebuild trust in the relationship.

Client Testimonials

"With everything you helped us work through and the tools you taught us, I know we will have a successful marriage and my husband can stay sober. I can truly never thank you enough." - Intensive Client

“I thank you for your expert guidance in helping me do it right this time. Disclosing my past was the hardest for me, but it was the most momentous day of my life.” - Intensive Client

“This intensive was when our recovery as a couple finally clicked in.” - Intensive Client

"What I know now is that this is how I plan to live going forward the rest of my life in honesty and integrity. And I thank you for helping me see not just this part but so many other parts of my life like real empathy and listening and so much more." - Intensive Client

"I truly believe that this is the only way the betrayed and the betrayer can truly begin to heal. It is not a guarantee that the marriage will heal but it’s hard to imagine it could heal without it. Hope gently leads wounded people through a very emotionally exhausting process and leaves you on the other side with the ability to see some light." - Intensive Client

"It was the most difficult thing I have ever done and it totally changed my life for ever!" - Intensive Client

"I wanted you to know that this is the first time since I was a child that I’ve felt like I’ve got a fresh start. A clean slate. You talked about this as a gift for my wife, but I think it’s the best gift I’ve ever received. Thank you for facilitating that." - Intensive Client

"Some parts of it sucked. but it was instructional, educational and transformative. Most importantly from my perspective is that it seems to have given [my wife] what she needed, which is complete truth about the past so that she no longer has to wonder who she really married." - Intensive Client

"Hope, your intensive program transformed my life and our marriage. Thank you for your gift!" - Intensive Client

"I have never experienced the depths of these emotions. Because of what I was learning about myself and how I know I can live in the light of recovery for the rest of my life. I have hope and confidence in myself now like I have never experienced before in my life." - Intensive Client

"We were able to get to the root of the issue. Without this intense deep dive in 3 days I do not believe we would have gotten this. Every part of the intensive was helpful. I do not have a single complaint. The Intensive was the hardest and most freeing 3 days of my life. I would recommend this intensive to any couple who is struggling with addiction. We uprooted the depth of deceit that was holding us back from moving forward in our marriage. It was intense. Hope is THE professional you want to guide you through this painful process. She made us feel safe. Thank you." - Intensive Client

"The intensive was life changing. I feel Hope was very knowledgeable, professional, kind and truly cared. It allowed my husband and I to receive the tools and a plan that we need moving forward to having a healthy and joyful marriage. During the intensive I felt a mixture of emotions....at times it was extremely challenging but in the end it was very rewarding and left me hopeful and excited for our future together. I can tell my husband had a mind and heart change. He is hopeful and happy which I haven't seen him feel either of those emotions in a long time. I felt like I was heard and validated. I felt like I finally got the help and support that I needed. Thanks again Hope for everything! God has used you to help save our marriage!" - Intensive Client

"On our flight home, I told my husband that I believed this might have been the most important, most challenging and most rewarding thing we have ever done in our lives. This intensive dove into the issues that are impossible to get to at home. It also touched on important issues outside of the addiction like communication." - Intensive Client

“Thanks for everything. This may have saved my marriage.” - Intensive Client

"It’s hard for me to express in words my appreciation for your part in the progress we’ve made in the last three months since our time in Michigan. We’ve done the work, so I think we can take credit for that. But you gave us the road map and challenged us to go on the journey. We’ll take it one day at a time, but I’m hopeful that we have what we need now." - Intensive Client

"My therapist was unsure about us doing the intensive but became a big fan of your program when he saw how significant it was for us. We went with our gut and did it; we were on the brink and this was exactly what we needed." - Intensive Client

"I am very pleased and feeling much better in my marriage situation. I am seeing progress with all you have given us to do. You’ve provided a great after care plan for us." - Intensive Client

"As difficult as it was, I'm glad we did it. Your skill and knowledge is amazing in this area. What you have put together to help a marriage survive is incredibly helpful. You do this all in a compassionate and comfortable way." - Intensive Client

"Our first disclosure was nothing like this, I wish we would have found you sooner." - Intensive Client

"Hope, you have a true god given gift. You have helped us beyond words and I believe my life will be drastically different all for the better going forward. I seriously can not tell you how grateful I am for the work and time you invested in our marriage. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart." - Intensive Client

"This program I am sure has helped many couples but you are the ingredient that causes all of the pieces to connect and make sense. Your ability to relate to the addict and the partner was amazing. We are now tapping into the unknown potential of this marriage and experiencing once again the trust, security, and love between my husband and I." - Intensive Client

"With 34 years of marriage on the line this was the life line that was given to us before abandoning ship. I was doubtful that my husband would be all in at any point and was amazed by the change of his attitude by the end of the intensive. I am really thankful for being a part of this intensive and knowing that without it our marriage would not have had a chance to rebuild a new relationship with a solid foundation." - Intensive Client

"This was the foundation we needed to move forward. With all the options we had for disclosure, I'm so grateful we chose this path. Every couple who is dealing with betrayal trauma and sexual secrets and lies needs to know about this intensive." - Intensive Client

"There's a lot of ways to do it but I truly believe this is the BEST way to have a disclosure. Out of every program we've been through, this gave us the clearest path." - Intensive Client

3-Day Therapy Intensive in Michigan

I offer a limited number of spaces for therapy intensives here in Michigan. To ensure this program is the right fit, clients must apply and go through a phone interview. During the interview, I look for the following from the person who has secretly and repeatedly violated fidelity in the relationship:

A strong commitment to becoming trustworthy and safe.
Sincere resolve to break old patterns of deception and establish a foundation of honesty and integrity.
A true willingness to support their partner’s healing and build a fair and balanced relationship.
A desire to follow clear steps and actions that promote equity in the relationship.
Willingness to be honest about past and present secrets and to maintain transparency moving forward.
A commitment to being a source of healing and support for their partner.

Ideally, you’re already working with a therapist who specializes in problematic sexual behavior and the betrayal it causes. When you "outsource" your disclosure by participating in a Hope & Freedom Intensive, it's important that care is coordinated with your treatment team.

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About Hope Ray

Hope Ray is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) and a Certified Hope and Freedom Practitioner (CHFP). Hope is the creator of Complex Partner Trauma Magazine for women and the Getting D.I.R.E. Straight rehabilitation program for men. In 2023, she founded the Betrayal Violence Institute, an organization that informs and educates interdisciplinary professionals about the power and control dynamics that often coincide with secret infidelity.

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The focus of the Hope and Freedom 3-Day Intensive is to lay a foundation for restoring trust in your relationship.

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