Women: How does your husband Getting D.I.R.E. Straight benefit YOU? 

This three-segment program targets old default modes of dishonesty, avoidance and self-preservation. Couples get stuck in the repair process when the internal operating system behind his former secret life remains unaddressed. His faithfulness, honesty and empathy is a good start but it doesn't fix the dynamic that leaves you feeling unsafe and uncertain about him.

Do you believe in his potential but feel tired of inconsistency and setbacks? 

Feeling like you're in a trust fall may indicate that power is not balanced in your relationship. Even after a man chooses recovery, his relationship remains affected by the power and control he benefited from during his secret life - at his partner’s expense. In order for true trust and safety to grow, he must dissolve the remnants of power and control that once governed his partner's reality. Beneath this is a set of four maladaptive traits that allowed him to generate a secret, separate life in the first place: detachment, incongruence, regression and entitlement (D.I.R.E.). 

Men who examine these key areas become much more advanced in providing quality safety and trustworthy reliability to their partners.  Even with solid recovery, D.I.R.E. holds men back from critical insights that are already evident to their partners. The insight gap can leaves partners feeling frustrated and even hopeless. 

It should not feel like you're ahead of him. If he's willing to fix this, he can.