What is your "Trident"?

Without a steady core, any change you make is only temporary. Your Trident is the thing that keeps you enduring when you are at risk to "ring the bell" (we'll cover this in Segment Three). Expanding your mindset and capabilities requires stable confidence to navigate the ongoing challenges you’ll face in building a new relationship with your partner. The profound obstacle men face toward the end of the climb is this: not just following a path, but becoming the pathfinder themselves. This is what enables you to hold the light for yourself AND your partner in the dark. To do this, you must address the remaining inner instability and past hurt to be intentional about how you use your strength.

In order to attend to her pain in a meaningful way, you need to finish dissolving your power stance. But here’s the difficult truth: you will never be able to fully absorb and metabolize her experience. Why? Because you don’t face the same systemic inequalities that are part of her reality; you aren’t a woman. But you do experience certain benefits that, when channeled correctly, can become gifts to your partnership. Without self-trust you’ll be drawn back into cycles of hesitation and defensiveness; you’ll default back into D.I.R.E. traits and old habits. The crown of an equity-based partnership is supplying the protection and safety you have the ability to provide… Segment Three shows you exactly how to do this. 

Ready to finish strong?